When you think of or hear the words,
"Muslim," and "Islam," what are the first thoughts that run
through your mind? What images are you reminded of? What events are recalled
from your memory?
When you see a picture of my family above, seeing
my daughter and I covered with a headscarf, what do you think to yourself?
In a perfect world, everyone's thoughts may be only
positive, thinking things like, "Oh, it's just another loving family."
And many of you will think that! But unfortunately not everyone does.
In a world filled with media images spewing one
sided, incorrect information regarding Muslims and Islam, it is very easy to
get swayed and let our minds believe something regarding a group of people that
has a population of almost 2 billion worldwide!
Unfortunately, small clusters of people who call
themselves, "Muslims," have done horrible things in the name of
Islam. But these evil people have nothing to do with the true purpose and
meaning of this religion. I can go on and on about all this, and if you have
any questions, let me know.
But let's move on to how this relates to TEACHERS
and STUDENTS.
These days, most Muslim children are well aware of the
biases and prejudices that can be stacked up against them, and that is a sad,
sad thought. Imagine going about your school day, and someone calling you a
terrorist? It has happened to many of my friends and relatives. When I was a
student in middle and high school, I used to have other students sometimes make
fun of me for being different and wearing the Hijab (headscarf). But this was
way before 9/11. Children and students who have had to go to school after that
have it much different than I did.
I know some girls who got their scarves pulled
right off their heads in school.
Muslim female students have gotten followed on
campuses and threatened just because of what they look like and what they
wear.
"Go back to your country," is a common
phrase they hear. But most of the time, their "country," is America,
where they are second or third generation children. Once when a random stranger
told me to go back to where I came from, in a grocery store, I made sure
to ask him, "Where, Brooklyn?" LOL.. :)
I worry of my own kids now. With all the negativity
surrounding their religion and the true beautiful meaning of Islam not realized
in the mainstream portrayal, I worry about how they will grow up. Will they
grow up feeling like second class citizens who don't deserve to be here or be
treated the same way as any other religion? Will their peers in the real world make fun of
them or stay away from them? Will their peers' parents who don't know any
better, tell their kids to not get involved with my kids? And on top of that,
will teachers have biases against them and act out on their prejudices if
they have any?
I would love to share some tips on how your actions
can directly impact Muslim students in a positive way, so that they feel
comfortable in their classroom environment.
We have to realize we all have stereotypes in our
heads regarding different groups of people. Luckily, most of the time these
just remain fleeting thoughts in our head and we don't use these stereotypes
we've come across to dictate our actions. But we all have them. We all have at
one point or another been affected by our biases. You will have different
races and religions in your class and you may very well subconsciously attribute some
biases to these kids without even realizing it! It can come out in phrases we may say, or how we talk about the students to other colleagues, or what we expect achievement and behavior wise from groups of kids.
So my biggest tip is...learn. LEARN about the backgrounds of these kids. When it comes to Islam, learn from a real Muslim or authentic websites and books. Don't base your judgments on what you hear Islam preaches from TV and the news. I can guarantee you won't get the real portrayal.
If you have Muslim students, connect with their parents. Believe me, it won't be awkward. Parents will not mind if you go to them to ask them questions you may have about their background and religion. We want that! We want to educate and eradicate stereotypes.
Connect with parents to learn about specific things regarding their child and specific requirements of their religion. You will learn little ins and outs that your students may not tell you or feel shy telling you or think you aren't really interested in knowing. Knowing these little details will help your student feel closer to you and know that you are in their corner when some of their peers and outsiders may not be.
Have Muslim students explain parts of their religious beliefs to their classmates. If they are up to it, you can have them create a presentation with facts about their background and share with others. You could even ask them to have relatives come in and do a presentation and project with students. This will help because students can learn first hand about their classmate and understand things they may not have understood before and combat stereotypes.
For instance, older kids may be fasting during the month of Ramadan. If you know this is happening, find out about it and have the child share information about it with the rest of the class.
Challenge your self. Challenge your preconceived notions. Address your biases. Think about them on a conscious level and ask yourself what causes you to think this way? Ask yourself if any of these thoughts have made you act or think differently towards students. I'm not talking about just Muslim students, but over all. We all have been put outside our comfort zone and we all have had students we don't know much background about.
I implore and encourage you to be culturally aware because once you do that, your students who may be feeling left out or different, will find solace and comfort in knowing that at least their teacher understands.
One quick example is if you ever have a female Muslim
student who wears the headscarf. Don't let whatever you have learned by a third party person or the media let you assume things like she was forced to wear it, or girls are oppressed by men in this religion, etc. If you take the time out to ask the student, you will learn that she wanted to wear it as a symbol of being Muslim. She was proud of her identity and wanted to show it.
I started wearing the Hijab without one word from my parents at the age of 13 when I started high school. Not once did they tell me to or force me to. I did it on my own after learning more about its reasons.
My daughter started on her own at 11. Personally, I may have even thought it may be a little young and what will others think? But that is a wrong thought and I am saddened that I felt that she should hold off on it a little while because of what the judgments passed on her among peers and adults may be. But she was strong and was adamant about her desires and so she did.
I have a niece who is 6 years old. Girls that young are definitely not required to wear the scarf but her mom said that SHE will put it on outside the house because she said SHE WANTS OTHERS TO KNOW SHE IS MUSLIM. I hope that pure little heart is always proud of her religion and doesn't let others bring her down.
If you made it down here, thank you. I understand this is a unique topic - somewhat controversial, somewhat sensitive. But biases and prejudices in the classroom happen - by both students and teachers. The faster we understand that that is normal and not something to be kept deep inside your thoughts, the faster we will open up a dialogue and begin to understand our students on a deeper and personal level.
P.S...the only person below I see as possibly being oppressed is my husband as I hold a cardboard knife up to his neck...hahaha! ;)
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